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My Younger Self

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Give your younger self advice about dating in high school.

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wikiuser0726 said

at 1:46 pm on Mar 2, 2016

Dear little me, when someone says high school relationship RUN! High school is ruff and you don't need a man to help you throw it you are your own person and you are strong and for dealing with high school on your own you will be a stronger person plus 90% of high school relationships don't work anyway wait until your older were it will work better.

wikiuser0763 said

at 8:08 am on Mar 3, 2016

You don't need a partner to validate yourself. You are your own person, and you don't need to get involved with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. Make sure you're in the relationship because you truly care about that person, and not just for the sake of your own image or ego. Also, don't allow yourself to get too deep into your emotions. Don't trust that you're the only girl he's talking to, and don't get too wrapped up in the things he says to you. Many teenage boys are only interested in hookups and not actual relationships, so don't get too emotionally invested into the idea of a relationship with most of the guys you talk to.

wikiuser0743 said

at 3:46 pm on Mar 3, 2016

To my younger self, get ready to become a tank because everything is going to change. Guys will just talk to you because they only want one thing and maybe sometimes they are nice and just want to be a friend but eventually they will start to gain feelings and thats when you run fast. Just focus on school and focus on what you want to go to college for and go out with your friends and just enjoy high school don't get locked down by one guy and waste your whole high school. You dont need a guy to make high school grand because honestly every person goes their separate ways after high school and then you just see eachother at reunions if you even decide to go to them. But just think about your future don't you want to travel because i know i do.

wikiuser0768 said

at 9:18 am on Mar 4, 2016

Dear younger self, You may tell yourself that you wont get into a relationship in highschool but the truth is that someone will rub you the right way and youll grow some feelings for them, but watch out because girls are crazy, one minute they want you and the next they same they cant love someone before they love them self, and also stay away from the love word in the first couple months, because in reality you dont know what love is until it hits you.

wikiuser0764 said

at 11:13 am on Mar 4, 2016

Just because someone likes you, doesn't mean you're obligated to date them. Romantic relationships can be really positive, secure things, but that's not what most people in high school are after, anyway. Take these years to become the best version of yourself. No boy will ever be worth more than your education or your own personal needs. Take care of yourself. Remember, you're only going to be this young once. Travel. Explore. Don't let anyone stop you from seeing and experiencing the world to the best of your ability, before all the responsibilities of true adulthood set in. Relationships are supposed to make you better, not hold you back. Never settle. Waiting is tough sometimes, but you deserve someone that's really going to have your best interests in mind. Probably the most important thing to remember is that a relationship does not have to last forever for it to teach you something about yourself and be beneficial. You're going to have a few relationships that don't last, but that's okay, just as long as you put your all into every single one. Don't be so guarded and don't be afraid to connect with people. It'll only make you better, even if that person doesn't stick around in the end.

wikiuser0759 said

at 5:29 pm on Mar 6, 2016

When it comes down to it, high school is nothing but a social hierarchy. In this twisted system, people often view their own social importance in direct correlation with the amount of friends they have or if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Due to this, people will often find themselves falling into relationships that they don't necessarily want to be in, just so they can be with SOMEONE. While it is almost a regular occurrence in high school, his is not a healthy thing to do. You do NOT need a significant other to feel good about yourself or to validate your social ranking in anyone else's eyes. Relationships are supposed to be a very special and deeper connection between two people. Do not let yourself fall into an unhealthy relationship just for the sake of being in one.

wikiuser0717 said

at 9:54 am on Mar 8, 2016

Dear younger self.

............................................Don't bother.

Love, your older self.

wikiuser0754 said

at 12:03 pm on Mar 9, 2016

Don't follow your eyes, get to know the person before you decide to date. Make some friends and have people to talk to if something happens in a relationship that you're unsure about. When you get into a relationship, don't forget about your friends, they were there for you before you started a relationship, don't lose 5 friends for 1 girlfriend/boyfriend that you'll forget about by senior year. Don't try to start a relationship if there is no mutual feelings, if he/she isn't into you, it likely won't change and you'll overthink yourself/put yourself down.

wikiuser0718 said

at 9:14 pm on Mar 9, 2016

Dear Younger Self,
You're fresh meat in high school and for the most part all eyes are on you, in good ways and bad. The senior boy that says he likes you probably doesn't like you for the reasons you think he does and you'll be wasting your time anyways, he'll be gone in a year. In general, DO NOT try to date guys older than you as fun as it may seem. Do not let any guy you decide to be with hold you back from all your high school experiences because once you miss them, you don't get to go back and redo them. If he stresses you out, makes you question yourself, or makes you feel any less about who you are it is definitely not worth the time and feelings to waste. High School is just a small portion of life there will be so many other great guys that will value you.

wikiuser0750 said

at 10:01 am on Mar 10, 2016

Younger Self,
In high school, be cautious, but open-minded. Be observant, but not overbearing. Try dating a girl with interests that you two have in common. They say opposites attract, but the attraction reaches a dead end if there is nothing to talk about. Think things through, or at least start by thinking halfway ahead and think along as you go. You'll have to push through the awkwardness and nerves you'll feel, or they will contain you and choke you.

wikiuser0724 said

at 2:00 pm on Mar 10, 2016

Dear Yourself,
In high school its kind of hard to focus on one thing at a time if your dating someone. I'm not saying you shouldn't date while your in high school I'm just saying that you should focus more on your school work first. Like your father says boys come and go. They'll always be there just focus on what's more important in your life that will help you succeed in the future. Boys will always be there but school probably won't if you don't do well and continue with your education. Don't let the boys take advantage of you and stay true to yourself. Don't be pressured to do things your not ready for. If the boy really liked you then he would wait till your ready for it not pressure you into doing things. Don't be stupid, always be smart. Think how is this going to help you in the future. Yeah you might learn things being in a relationship and explore but sometimes it could get you in trouble. Believe in yourself you can do it. Get to know that boy first and become friends first. See what you guys have in common. It's always better to become friends first because things can not work out and you don't want to waste your time.

wikiuser0729 said

at 10:28 pm on Mar 12, 2016

Dear me, you may feel like you want to be with someone. all of your friends are. you don't need to, it's just high school and once it's over none of it matters. Just don't over think things, you're a lot smarter than you think. Watch out and have fun

wikiuser0758 said

at 8:49 pm on Mar 14, 2016

Dear younger self,
Dont take it seriously and go overboard and obsess about the other person. It should be like practice for when you actually met someone you can see yourself marrying. Dont get carried away by your emotions. Keep in mind that the world is big and you will meet a lot more people through out your life. Always respect yourself and the other person. Dont try to only date people that you only think are attractive because personality is a big thing if you two have nothing in common it will never work out. If any red flags show up like intense jealously or possessiveness you should break up because it'll end up hurting you in the end. Try to find someone that loves you for you and isn't trying to change you inside or out and if you find yourself not bring happy then get out of the relationship.

wikiuser0713 said

at 10:15 am on Mar 15, 2016

Younger Self,
During high school you might seem like you want a relationship with someone because you see all these relationship happening but i will like to tell you if you really dont have feelings you shouldnt do it because there will be a lot of drama. Also during high school you may feel like when you are in a relationship that means you have to have sex.. NO that is not true dont feel like you have to do anything you dont want to do. Also, i will say do not have a relationship with anyone in the same school because that will cause many problems because they will watch you and every move you do.

wikiuser0739 said

at 1:24 pm on Mar 15, 2016

Dear young self,
Please don't think that high school relationship are all about sex. You see everyone making out in the hall way and you always think to yourself like wow theyou must hang out all the time but in reality they don't. Don't get trapped into a high school relationship ship where there is nothing happeningredients out of school and just drama in school when your not together it's just the way these relationships are.

wikiuser0744 said

at 7:23 am on Mar 16, 2016

dear youngself,
Lots of people start dating each other in high school. They all get attached to one another because its like there first relationship in high school. they get too attached and they say they want to be together for there life, you always see them making out in the hallways, and saying bye to each other and all that, they are too attached to each other. relationships arent for everyone, but having a girlfriend/ boyfriend can ruin your life, because that person can say what you can and cant do, also most of the time your going to be spending time with your loved one which you cant have time to be out with your friends and have a good time with them

wikiuser0735 said

at 11:46 am on Mar 16, 2016

To my youngself
Hey gurl! i know you have a lot of emotions going on in that mind, heart and especially in that body. It's not hard to date nowadays. You can even just slide into their dms and ask them out. But i will just tell you my one little advice. There's a lot of cute and hot guys out there. Specially in college. They will show you their motive, what they want from you and what can you expect from them. Sadly but it happens there's also a lot other girls out there who suffers from broken heart. Always think, it's only high school. You will meet more of them in your college and in your future but don't cry for one man that broke your heart. There's a lot of fish in the sea and Dick in the world so get over it girl. But in terms of sexual intercourse. Be careful of who you had contact with because you'll never know what's going on inside their body. Just know them first before you give it. Love you gurl! See you aroud! :)

wikiuser0740 said

at 6:03 pm on Mar 16, 2016

Youger Me,
First thing first, YOU WILL NOT FIND A SERIOUS, LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP IN HIGH SCHOOL, so don't rush it. If someone finds you cute well then okay. But stay focused on your school work. Get good grades so you can attain scholarships and go to a good school. You don't com to school to find a boyfriend, your there to brighten your future. With that being said if you find someone that bring out all the positive aspects of you and wants nothing but the best for you then why not? Have study dates together, do all the cute couple stuff but dont forget that its probably not that serious. Either way have fun and dont stress to much over boys. You long term, serious boyfriend is probably somewhere making sure his and your future is set. And dont you dare shed a tear for a pubescent boy (if you do just tell dad or your brother, they'll hanle it) :)

wikiuser0767 said

at 8:35 am on Mar 17, 2016

Dear younger self,
High school is all about exploring who you are and who you eventually want your lifelong partner to be like. Don't ever lower your standards and always stay true to yourself. Try not to think "am I good enough for this person?" but rather "is this person good enough for me?". You will make mistakes here and there but this will teach you many important lessons in life. Loving yourself is the most important factor in high school because if you don't love yourself first, you cant love anyone else and your relationship will suffer because of it. Have fun, do what you want to do, and never be ashamed of what you do or how you feel about different people or situations. In the end, you need to go with how you feel in your heart.

wikiuser0772 said

at 12:53 pm on Mar 17, 2016

Dear younger me,
High School is where you meet new people and make friendships. High School relationships are not very long lasting and they shouldn't be, unless you actually meet someone you truly love, but its rare to find your one and only. High School is the time to make a lot of friends and focus on school. Dating shouldn't be about dating only one person throughout High School and getting emotionally attached with that one person, its good to expand in meeting and dating new people. So enjoy the time that you have in High School and don't worry too much on boys, your time will come when you meet the one that you'll be with forever.

wikiuser0731 said

at 7:17 pm on Mar 17, 2016

Dear younger me,
Ohhhh boy don't do it. Believe me it's not worth it. I would of thought it was gonna be fun and all that but all it does is just give you headaches. The relationship in high school is not gonna last you that long. Your gonna think your in love but believe me your not. Just focus on school and getting good grades because your gf won't help you with your homework. the only thing is gonna do is distract you and your going to think it's okay. Also make a lot of friends because when your bored you'll be able to have fun with them and party with them. Oh and by the way your parents are going to want to move to Roxbury half way through junior year so just don't get into any relationships at all. We both know you don't want to get married or have kids so be careful!

wikiuser0714 said

at 8:26 pm on Mar 17, 2016

Dear Younger Self,
Dating in high school is not that important. You may think it is, but trust me it's really not. The only reason you should ever get in a relationship is because the person makes you happy. It shouldn't ever be about how that person knows or their social status or anything like that. You may think getting in a relationship matter but trust me- no one cares. People may talk about it for a few days after the relationship is new, but after that, everyone forgets about it. You shouldn't need other people to validate your relationship. It doesn't matter if people think you're happy, you need to actually feel happy.
Also, don't let anyone ever pressure you into doing something your not comfortable with. This can really be applied anywhere, but it is especially important in high school relationships. If you're uncomfortable doing something absolutely no one has the power to force you. Don't ever let yourself be blinded to the fact that it is wrong. You have the right to say no, and if the person gets mad- get rid of them.
Honestly relationships aren't that important. Focus on school and sports and if you happen to find someone you like, that's cool, just don't let them distract you from what you really want.

wikiuser0745 said

at 8:26 am on Mar 18, 2016

i would tell my self to be careful and have my guard up, cause i will get screwed over, so be prepared.. i wouldn't tell myself not to go for it, because ive had great times with these people, something i would want to experience either way, but i would just warn myself to be prepared to be let down. id tell myself to focus on myself and what i want to do, and another person shall come second after me, as conceited and selfish that may sound, ill know they're just a high school fling.

wikiuser0716 said

at 9:43 am on Mar 18, 2016

To my younger self; Dating in high school may seem like a big deal when in reality it's not. There's no sense in rushing into things just for the fun of it. Relationships in high school can and will be complicated. Some say it's the best thing that's ever happened to them, and others wish that they can go back and make things different. Enjoy high school while you can because before you know it, you'll be graduating. Happiness in high school is very important, but that doesn't mean that you HAVE to be in a relationship. You will learn a lot from being in a relationship. Don't stress out over a boy, it's really not worth it. Don't let another person get in the way of your happiness and ruin everything for you.

wikiuser0730 said

at 9:57 am on Mar 18, 2016

I would tell my younger self that dating in high school really isn't that important. I think your grades and what you want to achieve should be your number 1 priority especially you senior year because senior year is the year that really matters most. If you really want to take on the obstacles of a relationship then i would say sure go for it, its something new and a learning experience. I don't think anyone shouldn't date. I also think you should go out there and meet new people and have new experiences but just don't get hurt. If you get into a relationship don't expect it to last a life time because you have so many people to meet so the first person you encounter will not be the love of your life, Trust Me. All in all just be careful and enjoy your high school years.

wikiuser0762 said

at 10:53 am on Mar 18, 2016

They say that high school can be the best four years of your life or the worst four years of your life; its what you make of it. Have fun and, learn to be a responsible, mature, and organized adult ready to survive in the real world. In the aspect of dating be sure to make the right decisions for you and the other person. Be sure to talk to the other sex a lot, be confident in your self, and try to find the best significant other for you. Two of the most important things in your life are health and happiness. Be sure to find someone that could bring you happiness for at least a little while, which would then bring you good health.

wikiuser0733 said

at 11:06 am on Mar 18, 2016

I would tell myself not to rush into things. If you're going to put in the effort of keeping a relationship, you should make sure that you like the person for them. Make sure that whoever you start talking to, be 100% sure that they're worth it. Keep your head up too. If you're not happy make a change. Your happiness comes first. If you aren't going to be happy, how can you make another person happy? Don't date someone for publicity or anything like that. Date someone because you like them and are developing serious feelings for an individual. Take your time with things and have fun!

wikiuser0715 said

at 11:14 am on Mar 18, 2016

I would advise my younger self to consider the fact that relationships are personal decisions and engaging in one is entirely up to any given individual. A high school relationship is often a crucial step in building dating experience and can drastically alter the way one feels about having a partner. Maintaining a healthy relationship requires a sizable amount of responsibility--responsibility that high school students may or may not have at the time. Furthermore, the choice to remain single does not make a person any less of a human being. As previously mentioned, relationships are personal decisions, and what makes an individual happy depends solely on his or her preferences. At no point in life should anyone feel pressured into finding a significant other.

wikiuser0757 said

at 6:30 pm on Mar 18, 2016

I would tell myself it doesn't matter if you are in a relationship or not. Just because all of your friends are in relationships doesn't mean you have to be, so don't force anything. If you do find yourself in a relationship and you aren't happy break up with the person because it's not fair to either of you. Relationships aren't the only thing in high school that you should worry about, so just have fun and enjoy your time in high school.

wikiuser0738 said

at 8:41 pm on Mar 18, 2016

Don't just go for the "hot" guy. Look for personality and something that will keep you hooked. It's most important for you to be happy because at the end of the day its only you. Don't fight for the relationship either. Both sides need to put in the same amount of work. If a boy doesn't put the effort in or make you feel like the only girl in the world then move on. You deserve someone who will give you their all and nothing less. Relationships aren't all rainbows and butterflies. Sure there are days where you'll feel on top of the world with your boyfriend but there will be days where you'll fight and be upset. That's normal, but if the bad days out number the good days then end things. Never let him lay a hand on you and don't forget to enjoy your youth while it lasts.

wikiuser0753 said

at 8:51 pm on Mar 18, 2016

I would tell my younger self to put myself before i put any guy. Learn to love yourself before you attempt a relationship. Not every guy is worth your time. Take relationships slow, and think about what your actions. Every relationship isn't going to last and don't force something that doesn't exist. Don't feel pressured to stay in a relationship that you aren't happy in. Being single isn't always a bad thing at all. You don't need a guy to make you happy or love yourself. Staying just friends with a guy is possible. If a guy doesn't make an effort, leave. Don't be afraid to be the bigger person. Don't do anything you don't want to do. Fighting is okay, and will eventually happen. Don't feel pressured into trying to find someone in high school, you have the rest of your life for that.

wikiuser0761 said

at 10:00 pm on Mar 18, 2016

Dear younger self,
If you plan on having a relationship in high school here is a few things you need to know. First, don't have high expectations in your relationship. Boys are much more immature that girls. Don't expect them to just know what you are feeling. you have to tell them directly what you are feeling. Two, don't expect the relationship to last forever. There is a very slim chance that your relationship will last beyond high school. Three, high school relationships aren't very important. Don't let it upset you too much and don't obsess over it. It isn't worth it.

wikiuser0765 said

at 11:27 am on Mar 19, 2016

Dear younger self,
Understand and love yourself before going into a relationship. Know who you're attracted to, what you like, how you want to be treated. You might end up with people who don't understand you at all. But thats because you don't really understand yourself. Its okay if you dont, but it helps to know who you are and who you want to be with. It doesn't matter if you never end up in one, there is no rush. Dont live up to others expectations, and be with who you want to be with.

wikiuser0741 said

at 7:32 pm on Mar 20, 2016

DON'T DO IT! You'll have plenty of time to date in college and meet people who will be mature enough (for the most part) to be in a relationship. Make friendships, not boyfriends or girlfriends in high school because before you know it those four years will be over and regrets about discovering yourself may creep in if you spent those years chasing after someone. Focus on yourself so when you enter college, you'll be able to better understand yourself and offer up the confident, mature person you became after high school.

wikiuser0755 said

at 7:04 am on Mar 21, 2016

I'm not a fan of dating in high school, so i say don't do it. This is high school and youre still a kid, so just enjoy life, you have the rest of your life to worry about commitment, and you shouldnt have to worry about that big of a commitment when you are a kid.

wikiuser0752 said

at 7:08 am on Mar 21, 2016

Don't be an idiot. Don't get top worked up if something does't go as planned or doesn't work out. Balance your friends along with your girlfriend, and don't let yourself get bossed around. Pick up your pants and realize that if your'e the one always putting in 100 and your'e getting 50, get out of the relationship. And don't think that a relationship is necessary. Enjoy high school with as many FRIENDS as possible because you only got one shot. Oh, and don't let your grades slip either you moron.

wikiuser0746 said

at 6:41 am on Mar 22, 2016

dear yoounger self, dont waste your time or anyone elses time. Dont ever put a guy first over your own happiness. Dont act like your first love will be your only love and dont ever rely on someone to make you happy. Build a good realstionship with a few good friends. Make sure your friends are the kind of friends to have for a life time. Dont act like someone your not to be accepted in highschool. You will regret not taking highschool serious so put your eduaction first. Theirs a time and place for everything and highschool is to enjoy your last few years before life comes to reality . And make sure to have fun. dont let others ruin highschool for you because they cant see eye to eye with you. Its okay to spend time with your family over "partying".. i hope you spend time with them and eat every cooked home meal because cafe food in college probably sucks ! .

wikiuser0727 said

at 7:23 am on Mar 22, 2016

Dear my younger self, relationships are stupid, and you realized that after a 4 year long one. They may seem important in the moment, but when you graduate and youre in the real world, nothing mattered besides the grades you got every marking period. But if you truly like being around someone and can picture yourself being with them, then why not go for it.

wikiuser0751 said

at 11:58 am on Mar 22, 2016

Dear younger self,
Dating isn't that important. You don't need someone else to feel whole. You don't need the attention. In the long run, relationships are good only when forged in a happy, healthy environment. You yourself are not done in your journey, so don't allow yourself to focus solely on one person. Because in the end, they usually aren't that worth it. If you find someone, be friends first. Find out what they like to do, what their belief systems are, and don't let them use you. Friends first, boyfriend second. Understand the signs of an abusive relationship. But most of all, don't take the chances that aren't going to help you get into college. Because again, it just isn't worth it. Enjoy your time at RHS and don't worry about a relationship. If it happens, it happens, but be smart and work for yourself.

Naug said

at 12:02 pm on Mar 22, 2016

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