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Birth Control Discussion

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Let's play a scenario.  

A friend of yours has been talking to you about the decision to have sex with their new "significant other." They are nervous about the responsibility of supplying birth control.  What advice do you provide for your friend?  What type of resources could you direct them to, to be sure they obtain correct information?

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wikiuser0763 said

at 10:01 am on Feb 26, 2016

First off, I would ensure that my friend was sure about their decision to become intimate with their partner. I would suggest that both of them get tested for any STDs before becoming intimate. About her hesitation about birth control, I would suggest she see a doctor or gynecologist and ask them questions to make sure she is informed about all aspects of birth control. If she didn't want her parents knowing or didn't have much money, I would suggest she visit a Planned Parenthood, as they are much more affordable and are bound by confidentiality. Even if she does take birth control, I would tell her to still use condoms when having sex for extra protection against pregnancy and STDs.

wikiuser0721 said

at 8:50 pm on Feb 28, 2016

I would tell my friend to be careful and protected sex is always going to be the safest option besides abstinence. I've actually been in a situation where my friend and his significant other where having sex when she was on birth control but she had got pregnant so from expirience I would tell my friend to make sure that his significant other was always taking it on time and that it's not 100% guarantee. Also that people make mistakes and forget to take it on time. After we discussed everything I would tell my friend to call or stop by a planned parenthood location because I'm not an expert and the people that work there would have the answers to everything he had to ask.

wikiuser0724 said

at 11:20 am on Feb 29, 2016

I would tell my friend to make sure your ready because you don't want to lose it to someone that doesn't care about you. You want it to be special and make you feel good about yourself. Make sure your mentally prepare for it and physical. You should have condoms and if your not sure what size to get you can always get all sizes. Read the laps before buy them. I'd direct my friend to a health teacher that she feels most comfortable with of asking advice on what she should do. If she could find a teacher shes most comfortable with then she could always google it but would have to find a lot of websites that have the same information to believe that its true. If the guy says that he doesn't need condoms he's lying because you should always wear a condom so you don't catch anything or get pregnant. There is something called the pre-ejaculate and you can still get pregnant that way to. Just don't be stupid, be smart about your decision. Make sure your ready for anything that comes your way and take a deep breathe.

wikiuser0750 said

at 11:39 am on Mar 2, 2016

I would say that if they are nervous, it would be better not to go through with it, ultimately respecting their final decision either way. That said, if they decide to go through with it in the end, then a sure-fire reliable source of information could be a pharmacy that supplies birth control methods to ask an employee(s) (trusting that they are as well versed on their products as they should be) about which birth control methods are best in circumstances that will best fit the intended sexual encounter. This way the friend can get information and be able to supply birth control at the same time. If the friend would prefer to gather information first, then there are some online resources that could be used to conduct research. However, some resources online are not as reliable as others, so escorting the friend to the pharmacy is probably the better of these two options. Of course, there are other options to gather information, but online resources and face-to-face expert advice are most likely to be go-to options sooner than others.

wikiuser0726 said

at 1:40 pm on Mar 2, 2016

Fist thing first i would ask my friend if him or her have had a real talk with there partner to make sure it is truly what they both want. Then i would say if your nerves then your not ready nd the most affective kind of birth control is abstains. Then after that if they still have there mind set on having sex i would tell them to go to their doctor and ask them if they have anything to put you on.

wikiuser0765 said

at 3:29 pm on Mar 2, 2016

I would recommend that the friend discuss all topics of sexual intercourse before moving forward. Make sure that both partners are aware of any past illness' or infections. If this "significant other" is persistent and refuses to get medical proof or protect themselves as well, then that really isn't the person they should be sharing the bed with. That being said, once that is settled and knowing all the information about the scenario, I will advise them that if at all they had doubts, then to wait awhile and talk about it. Get all the feelings out on the table. When need be, they can get information from a local pharmacy, doctor, or friend who had been on that certain pill for an amount of time. If by any chance it is a same sex relationship, it is still necessary to take precautions in medical history, protection is still needed in certain same sex relationships. ( Dependent on the situation. )

wikiuser0773 said

at 8:53 am on Mar 3, 2016

I would definitely ask my friend first, if this is something she really wants to do or if she is being pressured by her partner. obviously being nervous is normal because its something they havent experience. As long as both people are in the same page and use the correct protection , everything should be okay from there on. However, I would advise my friend to go to her doctor so she is able to get on birth control and have a better explanation on how it works and any other medical questions she might have.

wikiuser0740 said

at 9:03 am on Mar 3, 2016

To start of i would ask my friend if she/he is positive about having a sexual relationship with their significant other. I would also advice he/she to get tested with their partner so that they both know each others status. I would then go with he/she to a local pharmacist because they know best abut this type of question. There are many types of forms of birth control from laytex condoms, to the pill, to abstinence. he or she would pick the one they best desire and hopefully they have a good time.

wikiuser0712 said

at 10:04 am on Mar 3, 2016

I would tell them not to make any sure decisions until they have all the information they need. Its not safe doing things you may be clueless about!

wikiuser0768 said

at 10:59 am on Mar 3, 2016

I would first make sure that my friend is comfortable enough to have sex, if they are not ready then they should not do something they do not want to do. If they have any questions i would direct them to a hot line or for them to research question or even ask somebody who has used birth control before. Being that they are my friend i would be by there side every step of the way ( obviously not during sex ) but with anything they need.

wikiuser0767 said

at 1:07 pm on Mar 3, 2016

First off, I would explain how the decision is completely up to them and if they are comfortable with it. I would tell them to do it when both partners are mutually ready to do it. If one partner doesn't want to do it, then they should not be pressured into it. For advice, I would make sure they are having protected sex and tell her to do research on birth control options. Then I would tell her to consult her doctor and/or a trusted adult about it. Going to the doctor is the most important thing because that way she knows exactly what to do.

wikiuser0717 said

at 1:50 pm on Mar 3, 2016

First I'd say. "Why are you asking for MY advice?" (I say this because I never sought to educate myself with this) Then I'd tell him to go see the doctor, or a clinic, or if their REALLY bent up by this that maybe they should wait. Parents may also be good help too... but don't tell them all at once though (*social commentary*), or maybe they can educate themselves on it.

They should seek much help and education... at least a lot more help than I could provide.

wikiuser0743 said

at 3:27 pm on Mar 3, 2016

If my friend wanted to have sex with their "significant other" I would definitely double ask them if that's what they really want. Lets say they were nervous because they didn't know where to get birth control from and they didn't want to ask their parents i would take a day with them to research what birth control option is best for them and go and get birth control with her. Talking with older people also planned parenthood ive heard is an option to get birth control so if its really that big a deal to their parents i would try their first to calm my friend down. I would make sure they are also having protected sex to her and never unprotected sex because that would be a problem.

wikiuser0714 said

at 9:55 pm on Mar 3, 2016

First, I would make sure my friend was completely confident is his or her decision to be sexually active. I think if they're really that nervous about supplying birth control they might not be ready, but it's their decision, so the only advice I could give them would be to start doing research on the different types of birth control. They should get an idea of which one they think might work best for, but then they ultimately need to talk to their doctor about it. The internet can be a really helpful resource, but can also be extremely inaccurate. I would advise them to start online, but there's no guarantee the information is correct, so a doctor or parent would be the best choice. I think if they're not mature enough to have that conversation with an adult, they aren't mature enough to be having sex.

wikiuser0741 said

at 12:46 am on Mar 4, 2016

First and foremost, if they're not ready to buy or supply contraception (condom, birth control, etc.) than they're not ready for sex. That's a sign that they might not be completely sure they want to go through with the decision or they may be embarrassed. Sex is COMPLETELY normal, no matter with whom you decide to share the experience with. Educate yourself with having safe sex, if you have any questions you can ask an adult, doctor, or even your parents. You need to be mature enough about the situation in order to handle it properly. If they don't have the maturity or confidence to openly talk about sex with a grown up or professional, they're not ready. You only have one v-card, don't swipe it until your confident in which cashier you want to ring you up.

wikiuser0745 said

at 7:34 am on Mar 4, 2016

first i would make sure that they are ready to have sex, make sure they're doing it because they want to and not because their significant other is pressuring them. as for advice, i would make sure they use all forms of contraception, condoms and birth control. if they continue being nervous about birth control, i would suggest they talk to their doctor because they will know best what works, what doesn't and whats best for you. if you have any questions they can answer them. ofcoarse it might be weird for you too talk to your doctor about sex, but jst do it anyway, because thats what theyre there for, to answer your questions and help you

wikiuser0764 said

at 10:35 am on Mar 4, 2016

I'd ask if having sex is what they really want, and if the answer was yes I'd tell them that before having sex that the woman should already be on birth control (pill form), because you can't just take it once or irregularly and assume you're protected. The body needs time to adjust and get on a schedule, or else pregnancy is still very possible. I'd direct both of them to a resource center like Planned Parenthood, so that they could get the information they need directly from a professional (not some person on the Internet), and facilities like that actually provide birth control for virtually nothing if one or both of them have insurance. However, paying for it out of pocket can be extremely expensive, which is the reality for most teen couples because no one really wants to ask their parents for their insurance card and admit to being sexually active. I'd also tell them that alternative birth control (condoms) is much cheaper than just the pill, and remind them that the pill doesn't protect anyone from STIs/STDs, and that it ONLY prevents pregnancy.

wikiuser0735 said

at 11:00 am on Mar 4, 2016

Before i give advice to my friend and his/her partner. I will ask them first if they use a condom whenever they have sex. Using a condom have the lower risk of getting pregnant and acquiring disease from your partner. I will ask her if she uses birth control pills and if they are prescribed by the doctors? I am not the best adviser about having sex but i will ask them if what ever happens, the guy will still be responsible what ever will happen to the girl and if they both agreed to have sex with each other. When an individual didn't agree that he/she will have sex with the other individual, that will be considered as Rape. By not having the consent of the person. And lastly, i will advice them to go to the doctor regularly to have some check ups, if they are still free from anything and ask some advice for the best way to avoid unplanned pregnancy.

wikiuser0757 said

at 11:52 am on Mar 4, 2016

I would tell my friend to make sure that they are ready because if you are nervous that might mean you are not ready. I would also tell them to make sure they are mentally prepared. I would give them the idea of talking to a trustworthy person who has gone through a similar situation, maybe an older sibling. I would also tell them that there is no need to rush into anything and that they should wait until they are 100% ready.

wikiuser0753 said

at 11:55 am on Mar 4, 2016

The first thing I would do for my friend is make sure that she was 100% sure that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. I would also make sure that she knew all precautions about sex. If she were feeling nervous then I would advise her to wait because being nervous doesn't always mean that you are ready to put yourself in that position. However if she were absolutely positive that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, I would advise her to make sure she knows that he do or she doesn't have any STD"s and make sure they both don't by going to a clinic. I would also advise her boyfriend to buy latex condoms and if she would like, female condoms. I would also advise her to go on to birth control if she had insurance since paying for it might be really expensive. I would also advise her to talk to her partner and make sure that they are completely positive they want to have sex.

wikiuser0715 said

at 11:57 am on Mar 4, 2016

I would advise this friend of mine to consider the possible outcomes, both positive and negative, that could result from having sex. Given the responsibility that is necessary to safely partake in an event like sex, it would be ideal for this friend to self-evaluate his or her maturity and readiness and base the decision off of that. If the friend does not intend to change his or her mind, I would then recommend the use of latex-based condoms to further decrease the risk of pregnancy. Considering that my knowledge of the subject of birth control is quite limited, I would implore this friend of mine to consult with an expert, such as a doctor. Telephone numbers to reach said doctors are readily available online; therefore, one would not be required to look very far to enlist the help of an expert.

wikiuser0772 said

at 6:03 pm on Mar 4, 2016

I would start and ask my friend if she's ready to make this big decision. And I would ask her if she knows the significant others status. I would tell her that if she's nervous about taking the birth control pill, then I would tell her that she shouldn't take the pill at all, instead she should try latex-based condoms or abstinence. But I would also advise her to see a doctor, so that she can see if she is eligible to take the pill, also to make sure that everything else is okay with her health or her partners health status.

wikiuser0733 said

at 9:08 pm on Mar 4, 2016

I would talk to my friend about what they really want and to make sure that this is what they both want. I would tell him to reaserch about birth control and to find out what is the best product suited for them. I would suggest a birth control pill and/or condoms. Also, they should be aware of their health. If he/she has sexually transmitted diseases, their decision might change. Both partners also have to understand the risks of having sex as far as possibly becoming pregnant. Abstinence is the most effective way of birth control that is 100% effective.

wikiuser0738 said

at 11:01 pm on Mar 4, 2016

If my friend wanted to have sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend I would obviously tell them to be careful and use protection. I would warn them about the dangers of not only pregnancy but HIV/ AIDS. If it was a girl I would stress to her the importance of being on birth control AND using a condom because if one fails you would always have the other to fall back on. I would try not to bagger them about it because I'm sure they hear enough of it from their parents but I would make it clear how life- altering a baby would be.

wikiuser0746 said

at 11:17 pm on Mar 4, 2016

I would talk to my friend and make sure they are really ready for this and are not just having sex to have sex. And if the answer is yes then i would make sure he/she has condoms and maybe convince him/herr to talk to he/her parents about looking into birth control. From that point i would hope they both know their status and if not persuade them to do so . If my friend cant take any of these steps serious i would express my opinion that if you cant take simple steps serious they shouldn't have sex.

wikiuser0736 said

at 7:32 am on Mar 5, 2016

I would talk to my friend and tell them that if they were really worried about finding/using birth control it would be better to stay abstinent. However, I would also direct them to any store that sells birth control and tell them to look around and ask the pharmacist for the correct information. Finally, I would also inform said friend of the possibility he or she could possibly obtain a std no matter how safe they were and that pregnancy is also a risk factor involved with having sex. Also visiting a doctor to make sure they are in good health and free of any diseases is a good idea before sex.

wikiuser0730 said

at 11:16 am on Mar 5, 2016

I would make sure 100% they are both ready to take this step in a relationship. If either of them are not 100% sure they are ready to have sex then they aren't ready and should wait till they both are ready. But if they both are 100% then i would talk to my friend personally and make sure he/she is prepared if something went wrong. I would tell my friend to be very careful and to use protection even though she is on birth control, I would want her to be more safe so she doesn't get pregnant. I would make sure my male friend is completely aware of the chance of getting his significant other pregnant.

wikiuser0716 said

at 12:49 pm on Mar 5, 2016

First I would talk to my friend to make sure that they have an understanding that birth control is not always effective in protecting you from pregnancies. It's important to make sure that their decision to become sexually active is not because they are being pressured into doing so. You can't rely on birth control so using a condom is very important. There are many different ways to direct your friend to resources that could help them get all the information that they need to know. It's good to encourage them to talk to a health care professional to discuss the different types of birth control, different risks, etc. Doing lots of research and to talk to people who take birth control, this way they can get an understanding of what step they need to take.

wikiuser0770 said

at 2:37 pm on Mar 5, 2016

I would make sure that both of them have knowledge about birth control. I would also tell them to make sure that having sex is what they both really want. If they don't ant to get pregnant, I would then recommend abstinence. However, the local pharmacy would provide proper birth control . But if they struggle with all of that, then i would try to convince he or she that they are not quite ready.

wikiuser0739 said

at 2:57 am on Mar 6, 2016

I would tell them that birth control is not 100% and that it does have some side affects but it help you protect yourself a little more. I would tell them to use condoms anyway because it's better than nothing because it helps pervent pregnancy even more. Birth control also can shorten a women's period. But never just use birth control alone. Always use condoms because they help alot and always pull out before ejaculation because that losses the chance too.

wikiuser0752 said

at 12:50 pm on Mar 6, 2016

I would first make sure that my friend is making the right decision to have sex as well as assure them to have comdoms for ANY situation. Because who knows what he/she could have down there number one and number two to prevent pregnancy to the greatest possible percent (even if she is on birth control). I would also direct them to a health teacher or their doctor if they have any other questions and are still nervous because it could help re-assure them that what their doing is safe, which will also relieve them and help their confidence, and confidence can do you very good in certain situations ;)

wikiuser0755 said

at 2:13 pm on Mar 6, 2016

Well first, I would talk to my friend and make sure that they are absolutely ready to have sex. I would inform them that birth control is not always 100% effective, and I would tell them to consult their doctor and ask questions about birth control and where to get it. I would tell them to consult more than 1 person, and to get multiple sources.

wikiuser0762 said

at 11:00 pm on Mar 6, 2016

I would discuss with them, my knowledge on sex, the risks involved, and what to be cautious about. I would tell them where to get more help if they wanted more, as in I would tell them to talk to one of the health teachers in our school known as Naug, as I feel she is a very well educated person in this field. I would also discuss with my friend the use of birth control, the methods that could be used, and where to get them.

wikiuser0713 said

at 11:44 am on Mar 8, 2016

I would sit down and have a really big discussion about the pros and cons about birth control. I will also tell them that they should really do what their heart tells them. Also i will make sure they do what is best for them. I would try to explain the information i know about birth control to them and they to get them to understand it more. I would also make sure my friend doesnt go through the situation alone I will make sure she know she has my support.

Naug said

at 12:39 pm on Mar 8, 2016

Thank you.

wikiuser0722 said

at 5:58 pm on Mar 8, 2016

I would tell my friend that the best way to ensure no one gets pregnant or an STD is through abstinence, how ever if they do choose to have sex it is important to always use a condom, and that she might want to consider taking birth control. I would also suggest she talk to a doctor, parent, or guidance counselor to be sure she is entirely informed before making the decision to have sex.

wikiuser0718 said

at 8:55 pm on Mar 9, 2016

I would explain to my friend all the different forms of birth control but make sure they understand that nothing is full proof except for abstinence. Condoms are the most common use but a girl could also take birth control which is a decision they could make with just their doctor if they would like.

wikiuser0719 said

at 9:59 am on Mar 10, 2016

i would apply to my friend that they have safe sex with that person and always use protecting if you don't want to have a baby with that person or you are not ready to have a baby. If they didn't know where to get supply for birth control and you are afraid to ask your parents then you should look up where to get birth control and make sure you are getting what you need. If your friend has questions that you may not know then go to the doctors and ask them because they probably have had people with the same problem as you or your friend does.

wikiuser0727 said

at 6:52 am on Mar 22, 2016

I would rather my friend have protected sex than unprotected sex. If my friend wanted to get birth control, i would encourage them to make the right decision. If the birth control is the only thing blocking my friend from getting pregnant, than i would encourage them to do so. I would tell her to go straight to her doctor.

wikiuser0778 said

at 12:42 pm on Oct 28, 2016

First, I would make sure she's absolutely sure about the decision to have sex. Reassuring them birth control is not 100% preventative and there's always a risk when using it. If they then tell me they were completely sure and had thought over their decision I would tell them to talk it over to their mom, a guidance counselor or an adult they are close to bring them to a doctor.

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